I've been doing a lot of thinking about marriage lately. It has become a popular topic recently, due in part to the controversy over same-sex marriage, and the extremely high rate of divorce.
From my perspective as a Christian, there seem to be two types of marriage, though the distinction is often blurred. There is marriage in the eyes of God, and marriage in the eyes of man, or the legal marriage.
In western culture, a man and a woman are joined in marriage in front of a government appointed official and they are said to be married. The proper documents are signed and filed, and a Certificate of Marriage is obtained and that is it. Nothing more is required.
Being a Christian, I wonder if this ceremony is actually necessary. I can't seem to find anywhere in the Bible that two people are to stand before a government approved official and proclaim their intentions in order to be married. Doesn't marriage take place when a man and a woman are in love, true agape love, and have sex? Some would say that marriage requires a covenant between this man and woman and God, but isn't the act of sex a covenant? What about if two people verbally make a covenant with each other and God and then have sex, doesn't that constitute a marriage in God's eyes?
If you don't view marriage as a covenant between two people and God, then marriage is merely a label instead of a state of being. When two people make that covenant with each other and God, they are creating the only bond that is of any worth. A legal document doesn't make you married. Neither does being part of a ceremony before an officiant, religious or otherwise.
One argument that I keep coming across is that we are to follow the laws of this world, therefore the marriage ceremony is required. But I say that is only required if you want to take advantage of the legal benefits of marriage. The law doesn't care if we say we are married and live together and go about our lives as married couples. If you check the 'married' box instead of the 'common-law' box on a government document they might correct you, but otherwise it really doesn't matter. What should matter is that we are married in the eyes of God, no one else.
People are all up in arms about same-sex marriage saying that it is desecrating the act of marriage and turning it into something it is not. Isn't that what 50% of straight couples do with divorce? How is letting two people that truly love each other get married going to ruin the concept of marriage anymore than we are already doing? It's merely a legal label that humans use to keep track of who said what to whom and when. It is not binding with God. God doesn't care about this little piece of paper that we place so much emphasis on.
If same-sex couples want to get married, let them! They say they are in love, they say they want to get married, who are we to stand in their way? If they want to proclaim to the world that they are legally married and can enjoy all the benefits, legal and otherwise, that it brings, then let them! Marriage is a covenant between them and God, not us. We are not fit to judge them or tell them that God won't accept them and their marriage. That is God's deal, not ours. I don't see any difference between a same-sex marriage and that of two non-believers. Though if the same-sex couple are Christians then they would care more if it was accepted in the eyes of God. But that's between Him and them, not us.
Now I'm not saying the man-made wedding ceremony isn't important. God loves us to stand up and proclaim love in His name, and make public confessions before both Him and witnesses, take baptism as an example. I'm just saying that it isn't required to be married in the eyes of God, and that being married in the eyes of man is secondary.
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I came across this interesting article about the whole Miss California thing that happened at the Miss USA pageant this past weekend. If you've been living under a rock, then here's a quick recap.
Celebrity blogger/sleazebag Perez Hilton was one of the judges at this years Miss USA Beauty Pageant. During the question period, Perez asked Miss California Carrie Prejean about same-sex marriage, to which she responded that she believed marriage should be between a man and a woman. It was a bullshit cheap-shot question that may have been the reason she didn't win.
From Y!'s gossip site, OMG:
'During the show, Perez asked Carrie, "Vermont recently became the fourth state to legalize same sex marriage. Do you think every state should follow suit? Why or why not?'
'Well I think it's great that Americans are able to choose one or the other. Um, we live in a land that you can choose same sex marriage or opposite marriage and, you know what, in my country and in, in my family, I think that I believe that a marriage should be between a man and a woman,' Carrie said to a mix of boos and applause. 'No offense to anybody out there. But that's how I was raised and that's how I think that it should be between a man and a woman.'
In response to those remarks, Miss California 2003, Nicole Lamarche, minister at Cotuit Federated Church in Cotuit, Mass. had something to say that I find kind of interesting.
“As a pastor and a former Miss California, I am often asked to interpret what the Word of God has to say on a particular subject,” Rev. Lamarche says. “I am quite confident that God prefers that we human beings stick to speaking for ourselves. And yet there are occasions when God’s Word is used as a weapon, and I feel compelled to speak.
“In the past few days, much has been made of the words of Miss California USA, Carrie Prejean. She stated that marriage is between a man and a woman. I write not in response to her opinion, but rather about her comments that followed: that the Bible condones her words. She said, “It's not about being politically correct, it's about being biblically correct.” While this sentiment is shared by many who seek to condemn gay people and gay marriage, citing pieces of the Bible to further one’s own prejudice fails to meet the Bible on its own terms.
“Most people seeking to condemn gay people point to the Book of Leviticus, where we read that men lying with men is an abomination. However, we rarely hear of other verses found in the book of Leviticus that are equally challenging. For example, Leviticus also tells us that eating shrimp and lobster is an abomination. And that a person should not wear material woven of two kinds of material—an impossible mandate for a pageant contestant!
“In Paul’s letter to the community in Corinth we read, ‘For it is shameful for a woman to speak in church….’ And yet these words have not prevented Christian denominations from ordaining women, such as myself. Sadly, the Bible has been used to further prejudice throughout history. We have used it to permit ourselves to enslave people; to conquer and kill; and to denigrate the earth.
“The truth is that it is difficult to know for sure the intentions of the biblical authors, but we do know something about God. Those of us who know God through Jesus of Nazareth know that he went to great lengths to express God’s love to people who were labeled as outcasts. He spent time with children, prostitutes, and lepers, all of whom were labeled as outside of the grasp of the Holy. As we continue to seek God’s vision for us as a nation grounded in a love for justice, I pray that we might move closer to the cause of grace.”
Now what she is saying could easily picked apart theologically, but it is the message that I found I liked.
What do you think?
Celebrity blogger/sleazebag Perez Hilton was one of the judges at this years Miss USA Beauty Pageant. During the question period, Perez asked Miss California Carrie Prejean about same-sex marriage, to which she responded that she believed marriage should be between a man and a woman. It was a bullshit cheap-shot question that may have been the reason she didn't win.
From Y!'s gossip site, OMG:
'During the show, Perez asked Carrie, "Vermont recently became the fourth state to legalize same sex marriage. Do you think every state should follow suit? Why or why not?'
'Well I think it's great that Americans are able to choose one or the other. Um, we live in a land that you can choose same sex marriage or opposite marriage and, you know what, in my country and in, in my family, I think that I believe that a marriage should be between a man and a woman,' Carrie said to a mix of boos and applause. 'No offense to anybody out there. But that's how I was raised and that's how I think that it should be between a man and a woman.'
In response to those remarks, Miss California 2003, Nicole Lamarche, minister at Cotuit Federated Church in Cotuit, Mass. had something to say that I find kind of interesting.
“As a pastor and a former Miss California, I am often asked to interpret what the Word of God has to say on a particular subject,” Rev. Lamarche says. “I am quite confident that God prefers that we human beings stick to speaking for ourselves. And yet there are occasions when God’s Word is used as a weapon, and I feel compelled to speak.
“In the past few days, much has been made of the words of Miss California USA, Carrie Prejean. She stated that marriage is between a man and a woman. I write not in response to her opinion, but rather about her comments that followed: that the Bible condones her words. She said, “It's not about being politically correct, it's about being biblically correct.” While this sentiment is shared by many who seek to condemn gay people and gay marriage, citing pieces of the Bible to further one’s own prejudice fails to meet the Bible on its own terms.
“Most people seeking to condemn gay people point to the Book of Leviticus, where we read that men lying with men is an abomination. However, we rarely hear of other verses found in the book of Leviticus that are equally challenging. For example, Leviticus also tells us that eating shrimp and lobster is an abomination. And that a person should not wear material woven of two kinds of material—an impossible mandate for a pageant contestant!
“In Paul’s letter to the community in Corinth we read, ‘For it is shameful for a woman to speak in church….’ And yet these words have not prevented Christian denominations from ordaining women, such as myself. Sadly, the Bible has been used to further prejudice throughout history. We have used it to permit ourselves to enslave people; to conquer and kill; and to denigrate the earth.
“The truth is that it is difficult to know for sure the intentions of the biblical authors, but we do know something about God. Those of us who know God through Jesus of Nazareth know that he went to great lengths to express God’s love to people who were labeled as outcasts. He spent time with children, prostitutes, and lepers, all of whom were labeled as outside of the grasp of the Holy. As we continue to seek God’s vision for us as a nation grounded in a love for justice, I pray that we might move closer to the cause of grace.”
Now what she is saying could easily picked apart theologically, but it is the message that I found I liked.
What do you think?
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